You’re out with a girl, and the two of you are really hitting it off.
Maybe you just met her at the bar, or the two of you are having first-date drinks. Whatever the case, you like her, she appears to like you, and you’d like to take her back to your panty-dropping bachelor pad.
But if you’re like most guys, this is the point where you screw things up. It’s mostly due to the fact that you’re not 100% sure if she wants to go home with you, and you don’t know what signs to look for.
She very well may be ready to go home with you right now – but if you wait too long, the window will close and you’ll lose your opportunity.
But since you don’t want to fuck it up, you sit back and play it safe. You think to yourself:
“Now isn’t the right time. If I try to take her home now, it might turn her off and screw up the whole interaction. Instead, I’m going to wait until it’s really obvious, and then make my move.”
What usually happens next is a mix of the following:
- Long make-outs that kill the sexual tension
- Stalling and having platonic conversations
- One or two of you will get overly tired and want to go home (alone)
- Another guy will spot the window, swoop in, and take her home
Overall, the interaction will stall out and you’ll probably lose your chance.
The problem is, most women won’t straight up tell you, “Let’s go back to your place.” There’s too much social pressure and she’ll feel like a slut. So, you need to know how to spot her signals that she wants you to take her home.
If you can learn these signals, you’ll stop missing opportunities with girls who want to go home and sleep with you, and start making your move before the “hook up” window closes. You’ll also avoid trying to take her home too early and screwing up the interaction.
So, here are 10 signs that she wants to go home with you right now. If you spot 2 or more of these signs, then it’s probably time to invite her back to your place.
(Note: Some girls may be ready to leave with you within the first 5 minutes of talking, while others won’t be ready for 2+ hours. Don’t get caught up on the timing – instead, pay attention to the signals.)
10 Signs She Wants to Go Home With You Right Now
1. She’s Receptive to Your Touch and Touches You Back
Physical touch is one of the most important parts of connecting with a woman. If you know how to touch her during conversation, you can turn her on and get her thinking of sex.
Here are some tips for touching her the right way:
- The best places to touch her are her elbow, upper arm, and the small of her back.
- Touch her early in the conversation (you can do something simple like a handshake introduction).
- Touch her at high points (like when the two of you are laughing or when she’s agreeing with you).
(For more on how to touch her during conversation, check out the chapter called “Flirting Without Your Words” in my book, Conversation Casanova.)
Now, if she’s receptive to your touch (i.e. she welcomes it and doesn’t tense up), then she probably feels comfortable with you. If she starts touching you back, then she’s probably sexually attracted to you.
It’s a clear sign that she’s open to the idea of leaving with you.
(Note: You can test her receptiveness by holding her hand when walking between venues. Does she hold on and even squeeze your hand back?)
2. She Follows Your Lead Without Question
For this one to work, you need to understand how to lead women, which is one of the most crucial skills a man must have in the dating realm.
Assuming you know how to do that (and if you don’t, then go and read my article about how to lead women), then you simply need to watch and see how eagerly and easily she follows your lead.
For example, you can take her hand and tell her to come to the bar and grab a drink with you. If she seems a little stiff or gives an excuse as to why she can’t, then she’s definitely not ready to leave with you. At that point, you probably should ask some of these questions to make a deeper connection with her.
But if she follows your lead eagerly, and continues to do so, then she’s probably willing to follow your lead straight back to your place.
3. She Stares and Smiles at You
You’re in the middle of talking to her, or perhaps there’s even a quick pause in the conversation. You look over and notice she’s smiling and staring right into your eyes – head over heels, lost in those ocean blues, autumn browns, or vegan greens. She can’t even help herself.
At the very least, this is a sign that she wants you to make a move.
4. She Doesn’t Flinch At Sexual Innuendos
Her: “How many languages do you speak?”
Her: “Oh wow, which ones?”
Me: “English, Spanish, and the language of love.”
Her: “The language of love, eh?”
Me: “Yeah – if you’re lucky, I might teach you sometime.”
A well-placed sexual innuendo gets her thinking of the idea of sex with you. It also shows that you have a good sense of humor and you don’t really give a fuck (since most guys are afraid of making these kinds of innuendos in conversation).
If she plays along, it’s a sign that she’s open to leaving with you soon. Even if she just laughs and does a playful eye-roll, she’s still probably down. If she doesn’t have much of a response, then you need to lead her more and get her invested in the interaction.
5. She Gives You “Bedroom Eyes”
Her eyelids lower a bit and you can almost tell she’s thinking about doing some bad things with you. It looks something like the woman pictured above.
This is one of the clearest signs that she wants to leave with you. Get ready to invite her back to your place.
6. She Licks and/or Bites Her Lips While Looking at You
This is another clear sign of sexual attraction. When this one is combined with the smile and stare, then she’s probably ready to go home with you right now.
Stop stalling, cut the platonic conversation, and invite her back already!
7. She Gets in Your Personal Space (And is Comfortable With You in Her’s)
If you’re in her “bubble” and she’s okay with it, that’s a sign that she either doesn’t have many personal boundaries, or she’s really interested in you (let’s assume the latter).
The same goes for if she gets in your personal bubble (like in the picture above). She probably won’t do it unless she’s interested in you.
When you get in each other’s personal bubbles, the sexual tension skyrockets. However, if you don’t make your move, it will eventually dissipate. So, be aware of this one and be prepared to invite her home.
8. She Asks About Your Living Situation
She inquires about what area you live in and whether or not you have roommates.
This is a signal that she’s already thinking of the possibility of going home with you. She’s wondering what she’ll be getting herself into.
9. Her Friends Leave the Venue, But She Decides to Stay and Hang With You
Her friends come up to her and announce that they’re leaving. But instead of tagging along with them, she decides to stay behind with you. At this point, you know she’s comfortable with you and has a level of trust. She’d also rather stay with you than leave and retreat to the comfy confines of her friend group.
Once this happens, you should aim to take her home within the next 10 minutes.
10. She Talks Less and Gives Shorter Answers
You’ve been hanging with her a bit and you can feel the connection. At this point, it’s clear that she’s at least somewhat into you.
Suddenly, you notice she talks less and gives shorter answers. You can tell it’s not for lack of interest, but more out of a sense of anticipation. Like she wants you to move things along without blatantly saying so.
So, that’s exactly what you need to do. The window is open, and you need to make your move and invite her home. The longer you wait to do so, the quicker the window will close.
Women won’t usually tell you straight up that they want to go home with you. Instead, they’ll give you signals (both consciously and subconsciously) that they want to leave with you. If you don’t know how to pick up on these signals, you’ll either try to bring her home too early (and mess up the interaction), or too late, and the “hook up” window will close.
Moving forward, keep these 10 signals in mind. If she gives you two or more, she probably wants you to take her home. So, make the move! She’ll thank you for it later.
Want to get more of these signs from women? Then improve your flirting and conversation skills. When you know how to flirt and make conversations sexual, more women will want to go home with you.
If you’d like to learn how to do this, then check out my best-selling book Conversation Casanova: How to Effortlessly Start Conversations and Flirt Like a Pro.