How do you define a “quality girl”?
I guess it’s different for every guy…but I’m willing to bet there’s a big overlap.
For me, a quality girl is ambitious, adventurous, intelligent, funny, and physically attractive. She likes to travel, take risks, and she’s the kind of person who does what she says she’s going to do. She has a passion and a purpose and she strives for it. Oh, and she gets my ridiculous sense of humor.
A few years ago, I couldn’t fathom why ANY twenty-something guy in their right mind would ever want to exclusively date a girl.
“What’s the point if you’re not going to get married?”…I would say.
I’d shake my head, jam out to “Ain’t gon tie me down,” and call it a day. Straight pimpin, right?
I was a bit naive…
In the time since, I’ve noticed a trend.
Whenever I have a high quality girl in my life, I am better on every level. Business, health, habits, personal growth… she infuses a sense of vitality within me. I want to be my best self, not just for me anymore, but also for her. It’s an extra motivating factor that’s hard to explain…
But I think it’s the secret behind the saying, “Behind every great man, lies a great woman.”
And it comes up in conversations with successful people all the time. I was just chatting with a guy the other day who built his business from 0 to over 20 million/year within five years…and we got on the topic of dating.
He raved about how crucial his girl had been in his success. Motivating, supporting, guiding…It just seemed like he improved every area as a result of dating her.
Yes, you can still be a Beastly Gentleman, living your purpose, being authentic, and leading…with an amazing woman by your side. She doesn’t crush your creativity and ambition, instead, she elevates it.
This truth is so clear to me now…I don’t know how I looked past it for so long.
And it’s even MORE obvious when you lose a quality girl…
Because here’s the thing about quality girls: They have shit going on. They’re not just watching Desperate Housewives and taking selfies all day…although they might have an affinity for “The Bachelor” series, but that’s a story for another time.
They’re growing and striving for something too. And sometimes, that “something” leads them away from you…or your “something” leads you away from her. Or both.
And it just makes you appreciate her impact on you even more. Because for that period of time, it’s like you’re operating on another level. It’s awesome.
But when she leaves? Yeah, sometimes another quality girl can seem pretty hard to find.
But I think it shouldn’t be that way.
Because the world is filled with high quality women. Passionate, adventurous, caring, understanding, ambitious… so just because you lose one, doesn’t mean you won’t find another. It just might take some time.
And that’s one of the many reasons you should strive to be the best version of yourself. Not only will it give you the best chance to reach your goals in life and make the impact you want on the world, but it’ll also prepare you for when that quality girl does come around.
Think about it. If you’re a mediocre dude, just going through the motions of life in a job you don’t love, living a life you’re not passionate about, that quality girl has no reason to stick around.
But if you’re constantly striving to be your best self, she’ll probably not only stick around, but help you break through to the next level.