Most guys want to date younger women, because they perceive them as more innocent, and honestly, a bit less intimidating.

But older women – specifically women in their thirties – shouldn’t be written off. While they might not be the right option for a long-term relationship (if you’re a younger guy like me in your early to mid twenties), there are benefits to casually dating and spending time with them.

As a younger 20-something guy, I’ve had more experience than most when it comes to dating 30+ year old women. And for me, that experience has been overwhelmingly positive.

It’s funny, because back in college, the idea of dating an older women petrified me. Hell, I was scared of even dating a woman my age. I didn’t feel mature enough, and I was also pretty insecure about my place in life as well as my own social intelligence, if I’m being honest.

But sometime between the age of 20 and 22, I went from being scared to date a woman my age, to frequently dating attractive older women. In the next article, I’ll talk more about how exactly that happened – and how you can start dating older women, too.

But for now, I want to outline why every guy should date at least one or two older women when he’s in his twenties. Because, from my experience, it’s been a great addition to my life and my progression as a man.

And I won’t lie – I’ve always liked older women. They’ve always had an aura of mystique about them. So it’s been that much more awesome to have some amazing older women in my life throughout the past few years.

Here are 9 reasons why you should date an older woman:

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 1. She’ll Call You on Your Bullshit

You won't get much past her

You won’t get much past her

There’s probably A LOT of dumb things you do around women that you don’t even notice. At this point, I’m a pretty experienced guy, but I still have my mishaps. And I’ve had a lot of my bullshit called out by older women.

For example, one time an older woman told me, “I can tell you’re a little nervous around me.”

The truth is, I was a bit intimidated, at least on subconscious level. She was a very successful woman, AND very mature for her age. “Why do you say that?” I laughed.

“Your laugh,” she chuckled. “I can tell it’s a nervous laugh. I just want you to relax and completely be yourself around me.”

I knew she was right. I never realized I had the “nervous laugh” until that point.

Older women will call it like they see it – and you’ll be better off because of it.

2. You’ll Get Better at Sex

Older women know what they like and what they want in bed — and they’re not afraid to tell you. Where a younger woman might let something slide, like, say, that you sometimes get in your head and out of the moment during sex, an older woman will speak up. Maybe not during sex (although sometimes yes), but definitely afterwards.

I’ll let you in on a little embarrassing tidbit. I once had a 30+ year old woman buy me a copy of “The Multi-Orgasmic Man” for my birthday. She enjoyed the sex we had, she just wanted me to last longer, breathe deeper, and be more in the moment.

I could’ve been embarrassed. Instead, I embraced it, and improved on all of those things. And that was just one time where I improved sexually by way of the advice of an older woman. Even if you’re good in bed, sleeping with an older woman will help you get ten times better.

3. She’s Better at Sex

In my experience, older women are flat-out better at sex than younger women. They have years more experience, and understand how to please men (for the most part). Not only that, but women in there early to mid-thirties are also extremely sexual. They like sex—and a lot of it. That’s because women actually hit their sexual prime in their early thirties.

Similarly, men hit their sexual primes in their early to mid-twenties, which is why it can be such a great sexual match. Seriously guys, you’ll have a whole different perspective on sex afterwards.

4. You Can Learn from Her Experiences

She's taking on the world

She’s taking on the world

Older women also have more life experience. She’s been through the roller coaster ups and downs that you’re going through now. She’s had to decide whether to chase her dreams. She’s sculpted her career path and everything is coming together.

In the helter-skelter life of a 20-something year old guy, it’s nice to have someone around who’s been there, done that, and can talk about it with you intimately. It’s also nice when you realize that at your age, she didn’t have her shit together either.

5. She’s More Nurturing

Most men like the presence of a nurturing woman. After all, that’s how most of us were raised—with a nurturing mother by our side. It might sound a bit weird, but older women have some of those same nurturing qualities, and that’s one of the reasons why they’re so attractive.

Oftentimes they won’t judge you like many younger women might. Instead (as long as you’re on their good side), they’ll accept you for you, and be very caring in their interactions with you. It’s not hard to feel very calm and comfortable in their presence.

6. She’s Not as Needy

She’s independent

For the most part, older women won’t be waiting by their phone, hoping you finally text them back. They have their own lives and passions. She’s had her experiences with men in the past, and she knows that a man won’t make or break her life.

As a result, she’s much less dramatic, and overall, a lot easier to date.

7. There are Less Expectations

If you’re under the age of 25, and she’s more than 6 years older than you, odds are, both of you know this isn’t going to be a long-term thing. With the difference in maturity levels and the overall differences in current life circumstances, it’s not really feasible.

But that’s actually a cool thing – because it’s kind of understood. There’s not much pressure to create this big long-term relationship. You’re both in it for the fun, and you can both freely learn and enjoy each other’s company. And just because it’s more casual, that doesn’t mean there can’t be a deep connection.

8. She’ll Make You a Better Man


You’ll learn new ways to improve yourself

Life is a big experiment—a learning experience. And when you date an older woman, you accelerate your learning. You learn about yourself, and you can improve sexually, mentally, and emotionally.

She’ll also point out the good in you, so that you can amplify it. Perhaps your really masculine, or maybe you touch her with intent…younger women may not pick up on things like this, and if they do, they won’t usually point them out.

9. She Knows What She Wants

Older women don’t beat around the bush. She might even openly tell you she wants to have sex, or wants to meet explicitly for sex, even if she’s never been that type of girl before. This has happened to me, and it’s always been a pleasant surprise. The point is, if she wants to have sex, she’ll go for it.

And this is awesome, because most younger women don’t have the courage to come straight out and say it. It’s not anything against them—this speaks more to our culture of slut shaming, where society makes women feel badly for being so open and desiring of sex. But older women are usually past this, and are more open and comfortable with their sexual desires.


You should date an older women at some point in your twenties. For these reasons and more, it’s an awesome experience. While you might not get a long-term relationship or marriage out of it (all bets are off though), dating an older woman can have lasting positive effects on your life. I know that’s been the case for me—and I’m extremely thankful for the amazing older women I’ve had a chance to date and spend time with.

And if you’re an older woman reading this, I’m not calling you old by any means—just older and more mature than most of my twenty-something audience. But you’re awesome, so keep doing your thing. The men of the world need it.

If you’re a younger guy, and you want to date older women, but just can’t figure out how to do it, stay tuned for the follow-up post next Tuesday – you’ll learn about how you can start attracting older women (even if you don’t have a lot of dating experience).

What’s been your experience dating older women? Some of the biggest lessons you’ve learned? Send me a Tweet or leave a comment below and let me know!